This week we focus on positive speech. This is an appropriate topic because in this week's Torah reading we discuss how critical it is to fulfill the words we speak. Speech is fundamental to who we are. Targum Onkelos translates the phrase that God gave man the breath of life (Genesis 2:7) as meaning that God gave man the gift of speech and communication. There is nothing more definitive of being a human being than the ability to speak. So this week let's commit ourselves to control what we say, and keep King David's prayer. "I will take heed of my ways: that I sin not with my tongue. I will set a guard to my mouth (Psalms 39:2)."
All the best, Rabbi David Walk
Daf Yomi Shabbat Celebration Saturday, August 4
Join us on Shabbat, August 4 for the Daf Yomi Shabbat. Incelebration of the completion of the world wide seven year cycle of studying the Talmud, Agudath Sholom will conduct a panel with participants following services on Shabbat morning at 11am. You do not have to be a Torah scholar to join the next cycle. Hear inspiring stories and learn why men and women have dedicated themselves despite the hectic pace of life to this
transformative experience. The panel will be followed by a joyous and delicious kiddush in honor of the celebrants.
TWO MOST COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT DAF YOMI:
1 "Daf yomi shiurim are only open to men".
The shiurim are open to both genders and are well attended by women.
2. " Learning daily Gemorah is tedious and perhaps even boring".
boring!"Quite the contrary, daf yomi opens up an exciting persceptive into learning our oral tradition, which includes history, homiletic teachings, and the basis for all our halacha
Check out this fascinating article about Mandatory Study of Talmund in South Korea:
The damage of insults and putdowns can last for a lifetime.
What kind of a human you will be depends largely on how you utilize the greatest gifts the Creator gave you: Your ability to think and speak.
Every time you speak to another person you have a choice to make: What should I say to this person right now and how should I say it?
A wise and kind choice of words will elevate you and enable the person you are speaking with to feel good in the present and will help build his self-image.
It is a great misuse of this awesome gift to cause other people pain with your words. The Talmud states that it is a worse crime to cause pain with words than to cheat another person financially. Why? Money can be returned. Words, once said, can never be taken back. The harm and damage of insults and putdowns can last for a lifetime.
When you insult someone and cause distress with your words, you are striking against the dignity of the other person. The highest level of kindness is to build someone's self-image. For the same reason, the worst crime is to rob someone of self-esteem and lower their self-image.
Most people aren't totally aware of the great harm they cause when they make destructive and demoralizing statements and when they hurt others with offensive and disrespectful speech. It's so easy to make counterproductive comments and ask non-constructive questions. There are many forms of subtle negative statements.
Very few people are truly mean and sadistic. But everyone gets frustrated, even angry at times. These feelings are the breeding ground of comments that hurt and inflict pain.
Ask any counselor or therapist and you will hear of the great damage caused to children who were insulted by their parents and teachers, siblings and peers, friends and neighbors. The unseen scars of hurtful words cause pain and anguish over and over again.
Ask any marriage counselor and you will hear of the mutual damage and pain caused to husbands and wives by the painful statements that were said out of frustration and anger. Even the nicest people speak in ways they shouldn't when they are in a bad mood.
What is the solution to this problem of epidemic proportions? We must all gain a greater awareness of what we are actually saying. This will already give you a deeper and heightened awareness of the power of your words. You build a better world with the words you speak when you speak wisely and kindly. You destroy lives when you do the opposite.
Hopefully this will serve as a motivator to be more careful from now on with what we say.
Our emotional states have a tremendous impact on what we say and how we say it. I gained greater awareness that:
* When we are hungry and tired, we need to be especially careful with how we speak.
* When we feel frustrated in an interaction with someone, we must be careful to avoid sarcastic remarks.
* When we are angry at someone and feel like letting him know how we feel, we need to master the self-control necessary to speak in a way that will express our true concerns without belittling or shaming the other person.
* When we are involved in an argument with someone, we need to remember to remain calm and centered and to continuously speak in ways that are an expression of mutual respect.
* The most important (and hardest!) point to keep in mind is: "Think before you speak!"
From Aish.com. The Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation has recently produced an amazing book , Positive Word Power (Artscroll publications). It is a very practical and fascinating guide to the Torah's wisdom on human interaction arranged for daily study.
Help us welcome a very special group of Israeli children who have paid a big price personally for our collective ability to count on the State of Israel. Each one has lost a parent in the line of duty, protecting Israel. The nonprofit that looks out for them, IDF Widows and Orphans Organization (www.idfwo.orghttp://www.idfwo.org), is sending us a group of 41 twelve and thirteen-year-olds next Shabbat, when we will honor them with a special kiddush after morning services. Please consider greeting them when they arrive at Agudath at 4 pm on Friday, or better yet, volunteering to host them. For details, contact Alison or Steve Bodurtha, at (203)564-6231 or email@example.com
Shabbat Topics & Participants
Coffee & Commentary
Rabbi David Walk
Simcha Rubin, Judd Love, Jay Jubas, Michael Berg
Rabbi David Walk
Israel's Worth the Effort
Tzvi Bernstein - Flattery will get you nowhere
Rabbi David Walk - 5 Kinds of Speech
Thanks to this week's sponsors...
Shabbat Shalom Hospital Packages
Alex and Mariya Feldman Abramov for honors received by Gregory Feldman and the Linda Beson Nursing Educational Fund
Rochel and Hecky Attar is honor of their grandson Baruch
Nancy Funt on the passing of her mother Dorothy Bodner Frankel
Debbie Oberman on the passing of her mother Sadie Oberman
Rabbi Walk's Classes:
Sunday -Special Session Rabbi David Walk
Monday - Parsha - at CAS - 12:00
Tuesday - Jewish History - 9:00 am
Wednesday- Psalms - 8:30 am
Thursday-Talmud: Megilla -7:15 pm
Look for Rabbi Cohen's classes in the Fall 2012.
CAS Youth Department
This Week's Schedule for Shabbat:
Throughout the summer we will continue to have Tot Shabbat, Mini Minyan and Jr. Congregation!
Rabbi Yehuda Jeiger
Summer Flicks With Rabbi Walk
Join Rabbi Walk at CAS for these features.
Showtimes 7:30pm. No charge!
July 25-Marathon Man- LAST MOVIE OF THE SUMMER!
A graduate history student is unwittingly caught in the middle of an international conspiracy involving stolen diamonds, an exiled Nazi war criminal, and a rogue government agent.
The Jewish Woman's Fight for Freedom:
The Challenge of Getting the 'Get'
A Report From The Front Lines of the Agunah Crisis
Batsheva Shani-Sherman Rabbinical Court Advocate for Woman
Please join CAS & Rabbi Ehrenkranz for this event! It's free and open to the community. If you have any old pictures from 1965 , please bring them to the shul prior to this event or mail them to the Shul! We will share these pictures during this event with all congregants.
Saturday Night, August 18 10 PM - Midnight
Congregation Agudath Sholom
Young Couples Night Out at Kosh
Open to the Entire Community
Meet new friends, enjoy great company,
ambience and food!
$20.00 per person, includes - drink and appetizers.
LET US KNOW! We strive at CAS to support our members in time of need. If you know of someone who is ill, please reach out to Rabbi Cohen via email firstname.lastname@example.org or phone, alerting our clergy and Chesed committee to offer comfort and assistance. Together, we can insure CAS's role as a community of caring. Thank you very much!
CAS DECORUM The policy for our kids is easy - "In shul or in groups." Please help us maintain decorum. Make sure you child is either sitting in synagogue or participating in our Youth Groups. Make sure that your child enjoys Kiddush in the Simcha Room or Social Hall.
SPONSOR THE KIDDUSH- Would you like to sponsor a Kiddush for Shabbat? Give the office a call and ask for Cindy, 203-358-2200.
ANNUAL ENDLESS SUMMER KUMSITZ-Saturday night, August 4, 2012, 9:45PM at the home of Christine Bloom, 12 Crane Road. Food, fun, and plenty of music! No charge! Organized by the Young Israel of Stamford as part of its summer kollel program, and open to entire community.
Sisterhood Gift Shop
Sylvia's Gift Shop New Summer Hours
Tuesdays 1:00 - 4:00pm
Thursdays 1:00 - 3:00 pm
Or by appointment, call 203-358-2200
STUDY IN JERUSALEM THIS JULY - The Gerald and Mary Swartz Introductory Summer Program invites you to experience the inspiration and excitement that studying in and touring Israel offers. Cost: $1500 covers everything including airfare, classes, trips and more. Scholarships are available for more information, find us on the web at yu.edu/admissions/mechina/july or contact: Nava Orlian, Director email@example.com
PURIM IN JERUSALEM-The February 2013 BiCultural Israel tour planned by Walter Shuchatowitz (Mr. S) and Bob Abrams will feature an extended stay in Jerusalem including the celebration of Purim. Early reservations are advised, for details please call BiCultural at 203-329-2186.
WOMEN LOOKING FOR BEREAVEMENT GROUP? Mondays at 5:30 pm at the Stamford office, Jewish Family Service, 733 Summer Street, 6th Floor. Or Wednesdays at 5:00pm in Westport Office, Jewish Family Service, 431 Post Road East, Suite 11. Gather to explore thoughts and feelings about grief in a non-judgmental environment that provides emotional, physical and spiritual support. Members will not only receive support and understanding for themselves but will also learn to provide the same to others. For more info, contact Danielle Attard by email at firstname.lastname@example.org or 203-395-9494.
BUILDING YOUR PERSONAL RESUME- Thursdays, 7:45 pm A JFS support group, facilitated by Melanie Rago and Danielle Attard, training in Marriage and Family Therapy, for those affected by the poor economy, underemployment or unemployment. The group will meet at the JFS Westport offices, 431 E. Post Road, Westport. Topics to be covered will include: building confidence, finding strengths and supporting others in similar situations. For more info, please contact Melanie Rago at 631-355-1120 or email at email@example.com or Danielle Attard by email at firstname.lastname@example.org or 203-395-9494.
THE YU STAMFORD COMMUNITY KOLLEL, sponsored by the Young Israel of Stamford invites the entire community to a vitally important panel discussion:"Confronting Abuse in the Orthodox Community"The Panel will feature experts in the field.Rabbi Yosef Blau, Mashgiach Ruchani, RIETS David Cohen, Esq., Connecticut State's Attorney (Stamford)Dr. Mark Banschick, Noted psychiatrist and syndicated columnist. Moderated by Rabbi Elly Krimsky, Young Israel of Stamford Shabbat Chazon, July 28th 2012Young Israel of Stamford - 69 Oaklawn Avenue, Stamford Program to follow services (which begin at 9:00 am) and kiddush. This program is off the record, closed to the media and a child-care program will take place concurrent to the program. This program is not for children.
MENDING BATTLE WOUNDS AT HOME-Sundays at 6:00 pm at the JFS Westport offices, 431 E. Post Road, Westport. Facilitated by Melanie Rago and Danielle Attard, training in Marriage and Family Therapy, the support group is for spouses and significant other of veterans returning home. Discussions will include topics about rebuilding relationships after extended separation, addressing and living with PTSD and redefining roles. For more information, please contact Melanie Rago at 631-355-1120 or email at email@example.com or Danielle Attard by email at firstname.lastname@example.org or 203-395-9494.
TRIP TO ISRAEL-Don Miller & Jeff Rudolph, are organizing a third grassroots trip to Israel April 21-May 3, 2013. This trip is open to the entire
Jewish community. We would love to have members of Congregation Adudath Sholom on our trip. For more info contact Jeff Rudolph at: email@example.com