Without great solitude no serious work is possible.
On the surface, solitude and loneliness seem similar, but they are, in fact, quite different. Loneliness is imposed upon us by others while solitude is chosen. During the ten days of repentance, find the time for self reflection.
Throughout history, solitude served as the foundation for creativity, intellectual might, and spirituality. The leaders of the world's great religions all experienced revelations during periods of solitude. The poet James Lowell characterized solitude as "needful to the imagination."
One of my most vivid memories as an adult was traveling toward the south of Israel late at night with my family. We drove through the Makhtesh Ramon crater in the pitch-black. We stopped to get out of the car and were overwhelmed by the silence and the majesty of the stars above. They'd never appeared so bright and luminous. I sensed the spirit of David, who proclaimed, while gazing above, "The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Day after day they pour forth speech; night after night they reveal knowledge. They have no speech, they use no words; no sound is heard from them. Yet their voice goes out into all the earth, their words to the ends of the world" (Psalm 19).
Here are some tools for self reflection and cheshbon hanefesh.
Choose a quiet spot. Be still. Ignore your demands. Turn off your phone and personal devices. Frequency is more important than duration. The length of time is not as important as consistency.
You can be still or move around. Walk, run, sit, paint, hike, pray, meditate on a verse, think deeply.
Write in a journal. Streams of consciousness reveal your innermost desires and serve as constant reminders of your life's deepest values.
Study and Pray daily: Choose a section of Torah or a verse for reflection. Digest it and process how the ideas apply to your life. This practice is crucial for enriching your knowledge and spirit and, most important, for creating an objective barometer for your actions. The wisdom may move you outside your comfort zone fostering personal growth.
Rabbi Abraham Kook remarked, "Every human being has a book inside of them waiting to be written." What is yours?
Wishing you and your families a Shabbat Shalom and Gemar Chatimah Tovah,
Dads and Donuts Minyan - THIS SUNDAY at 9:15 AM and October 30. Please make every effort to attend and bring your kids for davening and a breakfast of champions!!! For more info, contact Simeon Wohlberg
Selichot Schedule- Sunday morning: 7:15 AM & 8:00 AM, Sunday night: 10:00 PM, Monday morning: 6:00 AM and Tuesday morning: 6:15 AM and 7:15 AM
Shabbat Table Conversation Parshat Vayelech Is there anything you are currently striving to change? Which change in your life during the past year are you most proud of?
Kosher Alerts The OU reminds you to always check the label before purchasing any item that needs kosher certification! And for the latest corrective actions, stay up with the latest OU KOSHER CONSUMER ALERTS & ADVISORIES...just click here
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Rabbi Cohen's Halacha of the Week - Forgiveness Maimonides states that before asking God for forgiveness on Yom Kippur, we must also seek forgiveness from other people. God will be forgiving of us if we are magnanimous and willing to forgive others. Below are a few guidelines to keep in mind in the next few days. If you would like guidance about this issue, please be in touch with me. Peace is the conduit for blessing in our lives. Asking Forgiveness:
If you know you have offended or otherwise injured someone, ask for forgiveness before Yom Kippur (if doing so will bring up bad feelings from the past, you may not do so-but you might not be forgiven for that injury).
If you may have offended, ask for forgiveness.
If you are certain that you did not, don't ask for forgiveness.
If you did not ask someone for forgiveness (whom you should have asked) before Yom Kippur, you should do so afterward.
If a person wrongs you intentionally, you do not need to forgive him or her unless the person repairs the wrong and is genuinely regretful for having done the evil. (Courtesy of www.ou.org)
We are pleased to welcome many new members to our community and our Congregation. We provide a full range of services to our members-from an active Young Families group, to classes, services, & more. If you're new to Stamford and haven't joined CAS-what better time than the High Holidays? Contact Matt Feinberg, our Director of Operationsfirstname.lastname@example.org to learn about the benefits of being a member.
We received the following recommendation from the Stamford Police Deparment: Please ask CAS members to walk on the side of all streets, not down the center. This will promote safety for those walking and those driving - and show consideration to our neighbors.
Congregation Agudath Sholom has been a vital part of the City of Stamford for more than 125 years. As good citizens, we want to be friendly and nice to our neighbors-especially on the High Holidays. Help us be a good neighbor-especially on the surrounding streets. Please be considerate of their needs.
We need volunteers to serve as ushers in the Sanctuary and greeters at the front door during the High Holidays! Kol Nidre - 2 shifts and Yom Kippur - 11 am-2 pm. If you are interested in helping, please e-mail Elisheva at email@example.com
HIGH HOLIDAY PARKING
Please note that overflow parking in the church lot across the street is available the evening of October 11 and during the day October 12 until 3:30 PM
Boxwood & Holbrook Drives - At our request, the police department will place signs on Boxwood and Holbrook Drives that will limit parking to one side of the street. This is being done as a safety precaution. Boxwood and Holbrook Drives are very narrow. Emergency vehicles cannot get through these streets if needed if cars are parked on both sides. We appreciate your cooperation
Thanks To Our Sponsors
Shabbat Shalom Hospital Packages
the Linda Beson Nursing Education Fund
co-sponsored by Howard Wolfe in honor of Danielle's milestone birthday and Dan Rosenbloom in honor of the Stamford Jewish Community
New Young Families Program - Babies & Breakfast at CAS Bring your baby and come mingle with other moms at CAS. This will be a free bi-weekly group for moms to socialize, grab some food, or at the very least, get out of the house! This group is for moms with babies from birth through 1. Light refreshments will be provided. We will meet every other Monday at 9:15 for 1 hour. The first two dates are October 10th and 31st. For more information, please contact Melissa Litwak (firstname.lastname@example.org) or Rachel Kaimowitz (email@example.com).
New Young Families Shalom Bayit Series with Rabbi Daniel Cohen The four part series starts Sunday eve, October 30th at a private home. To learn more about this series on marriage, parenting and more, contact chair, Rachel Maryles at firstname.lastname@example.org or Rabbi Cohen.
Save the Date - Paint Night Out "Wine and Unwind" at CAS , Saturday night, Dec. 10th at 7:00 PM. Hosted by the CAS Young Families for adults of all ages. More info to come. Chairs - Miriam and Josh Sperber and Rachel and Daniel Schilowitz and Jessica and Adam Furmansky
DEADLINE- Sunday October 9, noon Pick up dates at CAS are: Thursday, October 13 - 6:30 PM - 9:00 PM Friday, October 14 - 2 - 5 PM Sunday, October 16 - 8 AM - 10 AM Enter your reservation & pre-pay on-line to speed your pickup!
Always wanted to read Hebrew but didn't know how? This class is for you! Come join us beginning Monday evening, September 12th at 8 PM for an 8 session weekly crash course in Hebrew reading at Agudath Sholom. Level 1- For those with no Hebrew reading background led by Rabbi Oran Zweiter Level 2- For those with basic familiarity, who want to develop their skills, as well as learn to navigate the high holiday prayer book (will include a one session review of level 1) led by Mark Wagshul
September 26 - October 14 Heading to the grocery store? Been eyeing that kosherjar of applesauce and can of soup?Don't forget to pick up a couple extra for CAS's Food Drive to helpJewish Family Service fill its kosher pantry!!! Last year, CAS collected nearly 600 items for JFS. This year, let's try and reach 1,000!!! Please contact Event Chairs: Jessie and David Brand at email@example.com Youth Chairs: Ben Cohen and Noa Haron
Classes: Sunday mornings, 9:30 to 11:00 am Nov. 6, 20, Dec. 4, 11, 18, Jan. 8, 22 and 29th, Feb. 5th ( Feb. 12th snow date)
Matan, led by Diane Cohen, is a mother-daughter program for sixth grade Bat Mitzvah-age girls focusing on female role models from the time of the Bible through modern Israel. It is an educational, fun, interactive and uplifting way to prepare for your Bnai Mitzvah and grow closer to your daughters in the process. The Matan Class is endowed by a gift from Gerald Cohen in memory of his mother Florence Cohen, Tziporah bat Shimon.
Kasim Hafeez is a British citizen of Pakistani Muslim heritage. Growing up in a predominantly Muslim community in the United Kingdom, from a young age he was exposed to radical Anti-Western, Anti-Semitic and Anti-Israel ideas on a daily basis. In his teenage years he made a natural progression towards a more radical Islamist ideology, becoming very active in the Anti-Israel movement, calling for Israel's destruction and delegitimizing its existence on campus and beyond. After coming across Alan Dershowitz's book 'The Case for Israel', a book that challenged his fundamental beliefs, Hafeez began a period of research and reflection that led to him visiting Israel for the first time in 2007. Witnessing the true nature of the Jewish state, was a major turning point in his life and changed his perception of Israel forever.
Please join CAS Young Couples for a game night, Saturday November 12th at 7:30 pm at the home of Kate and Peretz Cik. We will have games set up, but if you have a favorite board game, please bring it along! Drinks and light nosh will be served. There is no cost for this event but RSVP is required.
Classes: Sundays, Nov. 13th and 20th - 9:15 am December 18th - Tefillin Trip to Tiferes Stam in Brooklyn and Delicious Lunch at Essen NY Deli
Join Rabbi Cohen and other pre-Bar Mitzvah fathers and seventh grade boys to discuss what our tradition teaches us about becoming a man. Each session will cover a unique aspect of a Bar Mitzvah's new responsibilities in the world, and Rabbi Cohen will bring relevant sources to stimulate discussion. The three topics will be: (1) who am I, and what are my responsibilities as an individual? (2) who am I, and what are my responsibilities in my family? (3) who am I, and what are my responsibilities in my local community, Jewish people and the world? This is a great opportunity for fathers and sons to bond and grow in preparation for their Bnai Mitzvah.
Dinner in Motion is a round-robin progressive meal where participants change tables and discussion topics with each course - allowing each participant to meet CAS members of all generations, connect to others, and have fun! Special programming for kids and teens.
Chairs - Rachel & Jeremy Hager, Hillary & Farren Isaacs, and Lorraine & David Kweskin.
A CAS Member raved about a past Dinner In Motion, "I felt terrific about the last dinner because I really got to see the interaction between different cross-sections of the congregation and the impact the dinner had on building bridges and creating common ground."
This trip will feature stimulating daily shiurim in Tanach, Talmud, and Halacha - taught by leading Torah scholars including Rabbi Shlomo Riskin, Rabbi David Stav, and Mrs. Shani Taragin. Information: Contact Rabbi Cohen or Rabbi Tzvi Bernstein
Rabbi Daniel Cohen explains why you should attend the AIPAC Policy Conference.
CAS SHABBAT ATRIA MITZVAH MISSION CONTINUES Spreading joy and building community. Our goal: enrich the seniors' experience through friendship, song and joy. Join Rabbi Cohen and Kate & Peretz Cik on Friday, October 28 at 2:30 PM to share the spirit of Shabbat. Adults & kids welcome. Info: Rabbi Cohen at firstname.lastname@example.org.
KABBALAH IN NATURE - Spiritual Hike with Rabbi Daniel Cohen. EXPERIENCE THE BEAUTY OF GOD ON A FALL SPIRITUALHIKE with Rabbi Cohen on Sunday, October 30th. We will meet at 2 PM in Weston at the Lucius Pond Orway, Devil's Den Preserve.
CAS GARDEN UPDATE! Last week, we harvested and delivered another 50 pounds of veggies to the food bank. That brings our new total to 176 pounds donated so far this season. Thank G-d the garden looks great and G-d willing, will still produce much more before the season is over. Hopefully, we will beat our previous years' donations of 200 pounds. Thank you for everyone's help and support!
WINGS, BEER AND SHIUR AT 613 - The 2nd Sunday of every month- Oct. 9th, Nov. 13th and third Sunday, Dec. 18th. Join Rabbi Zweiter once a month for some food, good beer and an interactive discussion of topics of your choice. Stick around to watch some Sunday Night Football after! $5 per person.
DID YOU KNOW? HEALING AND HOSPITALITY UPDATE Whether in the hospital, assisted living, rehab or at home, a visit can lift someone's spirits and help with their healing. We pray in the mi'sheberach for a healing of the spirit and healing of the body. Thank God, we have a cadre of people who volunteer to visit our members. We stay in touch and alert the group to mitzvah opportunities via the email@example.com email group. The warmth of our community is our strength and our value. Thank God, many people are moving into the community. There is no better substitute for building friendships than a Shabbat meal. Once a month, we invite our members to host new families for Shabbat by sending them names. If you would like to be added to either or both groups, please contact Matt Feinberg in the office or Rabbi Cohen.
JOURNEY OF BODY AND SOUL TO ISRAEL AND VISIT THE FOUR HOLY CITIES WITH RABBI DANIEL AND DIANE COHEN October 28 - November 7, 2017. For more info, contact Rabbi Cohen or visit http://www.israeltour.com/rcohen/
CAS FREE MEZUZAH CAMPAIGN IN FAIRFIELD COUNTY, CT Bringing Blessings to Jewish Homes. Do you know a neighbor or a friend who lacks a mezuzah? CAS offers a free mezuzah and home visit to post this sacred scroll at the entrance to all Jewish homes in the area. For more info, contact Rabbi Cohen: firstname.lastname@example.org
JOIN THE CHEVRA KADISHA We need new volunteers for the Chevra - those willing to perform a tahara. Info: Please contact Rochel Attar at email@example.com
IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING We need you to help secure our Synagogue. As you come to the building, please be aware of your surroundings. If you see something out of the ordinary, please let someone know about it. This will keep everyone safe.
WELCOME TO OUR SYNAGOGUE PROGRAM Every Shabbat we station ushers at the doors in the sanctuary to welcome people, assist them and enhance the service. We are expanding the usher roles to include a greeter in the lobby from 9-10:30 am. Please join the usher team. We need you and your smile. Info: Mitchell Bell.
COMMUNITY CHESED HELPERS An important role of the Chesed committee is outreach to the Shul's elderly and homebound, who are often isolated and lack a lifeline to our synagogue. Volunteer to reach out and identify needs, visit, or give a ride. Even small gestures mean a great deal Interested? Vivian Weiss at 203-323-0909 or firstname.lastname@example.org. If you are aware of elderly or homebound members in need of outreach, please notify Rabbi Cohen.
WE WANT YOU FOR BINGO! Players AND volunteers needed. Join in on the fun we have every MONDAY at 6:00 PM
ROSALIE ABERMAN TEEN ADVOCACY FELLOWSHIPS FOR ISRAEL A SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY
Be one of fifteen teens to be selected for a free trip to the American Israel Public Affairs Committee Policy Conference, March 26-28, 2017 in Washington DC. The trip will include registration, travel and hotel and the winners will join the Agudath Sholom AIPAC delegation. The participants will also be required to attend the Stamford JCC Speak Up for Israel program.
To be one of the fifteen selected, submit a 500 word essay: "WHY DOES AIPAC NEED YOU?"
If you could lobby the members of Congress on Capitol Hill, what would you say? What case would you present about the issues affecting the United States and Israel? Essays will be evaluated by a local and national panel of AIPAC supporters.
Submit to Rabbi Cohen by Sunday, November 6th, 2016 at email@example.com
Open to 9th-12th graders from CAS. We are grateful to Stephanie and Bob Sherman for sponsoring the fellowships in memory of Stephanie's mother, Rosalie Aberman, Michael and Sandra Kamen, Beverly and David Stein and an anonymous donor. If you would like to enable more teens to attend the AIPAC Policy Conference through a contribution to our AIPAC Teen Fund, please be in touch.
Most importantly, with Israel on our mind and hearts, we pray for strength and good news. Please consider joining me this spring for AIPAC Policy Conference. Now more than ever we all must do our best politically and spiritually for Israel and the enduring bond of the US and Israel. Join our CAS delegation in March. Am Yisrael Chai!
Week of October 9
Rabbi Oran Zweiter: Beginners Talmud - 9:15 AM
Rabbi Walk: Bible from the Beginning - 9:15 AM
Rabbi Oran Zweiter: Wings, Beer and Shiur at 613 - 8:00 PM
Rabbi David Walk: : Dvar Yom B'Yomo. - 12:00 PM
Rabbi Daniel Cohen: : Pre Sukkot Lunch and Learn at 613 - Thursday, October 13th at 12 PM - 12:00 PM
Rabbi David Walk: : Talmud Taanit - 7:30 PM
Rabbi Daniel Cohen: The Pre-Shabbos Torah Taste - 8:15 AM
FRIENDSHIP CIRCLE Join us for Friendship Day, as we kick off a fundraising challenge to support the Friendship Circle. Donate your time and encourage others to contribute as well! Join us for the actual day as well! October 9th* 12:30-3:30 PM* Friendship Circle Center: 770 High Ridge Rd, Stamford For individuals of all ages and abilities, free & open to the public! The celebrations will include a carnival, rides, crafts, entertainment, face painting, music, food, and more!! Keep the circle strong ~ Donate & Participate in Friendship Day Go to www.FriendshipDayCT.com to sign up, show your support, and donate today!
THE WASHINGTON INSTITUTE FOR NEAR EAST POLICY presents "The Middle East in the Presidential Election" with Ambassador Dennis Ross, a William Davidson Distinguished Fellow and Counselor at The Washington Institute. Tuesday, October 25th at 7:30 pm at The Conservative Synagogue, 30 Hillspoint Road, Westport, CT. Free and open to the community. What does a new administration mean for US policy in the Middle East? What are the implications for Israel's security, counterterrorism, and our relationships with key allies in the region? No walkups accepted, you must register at http://www.dennisrosswestport.eventbrite.com/
JEWISH HIGH SCHOOL OF CONNECTICUT OPEN HOUSE on Sunday, October 30 from 1:30 - 4:00 pm (1937 West Main Street, Stamford). Come and learn about JHSC's unique value proposition, UConn ECE Program, 2017 tuition initiative, international mathematics program, physics first STEM program and our individualized Judaic tracks. For more information or to RSVP, please contact Sarah Rich - firstname.lastname@example.org or 203-357-0850.
AIPAC EVENT On November 1st, AIPAC will be hosting an event titled "Fighting BDS in Congress and on Campus: AIPAC's Two-Pronged Approach to Tackling the Delegitimization of Israel." Since 2005, the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions (BDS) campaign has sought to delegitimize Israel. The BDS movement has picked up considerable momentum, creating a legitimate economic threat to Israel. This event will feature a discussion led by Jeff Colman, AIPAC Deputy Director of Policy and Government Affairs, and Adam Teitelbaum, AIPAC Leadership Development Director, who will be joined by Grace Rubin, a pro-Israel student activist at Wesleyan University in Middletown, CT. The event is open to the community. To RSVP, please contact Jena Merl at email@example.com.
CARMEL ACADEMY WELCOMES YOU TO OCTOBER 30TH OPEN HOUSE Sunday, October 30th from 10 a.m. - 12:30 p.m. at the school's 270 Lake Avenue campus in Greenwich, CT. Serving children from transitional kindergarten through eighth grade, the Carmel Academy community is vibrant and diverse, attracting families of all Jewish affiliations from Fairfield and Westchester Counties, Riverdale and Manhattan. Prospective families will have an opportunity to meet Carmel Academy's leadership and faculty, participate in interactive activities with Carmel's early childhood teachers, and tour the school's historic, 17-acre campus. For more information and to RSVP, please contact Director of Admissions, Ella Shteingart, at firstname.lastname@example.org or 203-983-3503. From our community to yours, Carmel Academy wishes you and your family Shanah Tovah, a year filled with happiness, health and peace.
CAMOS (COMMITTEE TO ADVANCE MODERN ORTHODOXY IN STAMFORD ) announces its third annual Shabbaton for prospective residents, to be held on Shabbat weekend, November 4-5, 2016. A great way for families to experience what the Stamford Jewish community is like. If you are willing to host a family to sleep and/or for a meal, or if you know any family who is considering relocating to a suburban NYC community in the next 18 months and who might like to attend, please contact Michael Feldstein at email@example.com
MA'AYANOT YESHIVA HIGH SCHOOL FOR GIRLS invites all 8th grade girls and their parents to our Open House on Sunday, November 6th. Registration at 9:00 AM; Program begins at 9:30 AM; Academic Fair and lunch at 12:00 PM. Register online at: www.maayanot.org. For more information contact Mrs. Nina Bieler, Director of Admissions, at 201-833-4307, ext. 255. Ma'ayanot is located at 1650 Palisade Avenue, Teaneck, New Jersey.
NEW TO THE STAMFORD COMMUNITY- THE TORAH LEARNING CENTER where Torah learning takes place in a warm and inviting environment, Monday through Thursday evenings 8-9:30 with Maariv at 8:45. (Thursday evening children programming to start shortly- stay tuned for more details) Schedule a study partner and start learning a topic of your choice with a Rabbi today. The Torah Learning Center is located at 1766 Bedford St. To schedule a study partner or for more information please contact Hecky Attar at firstname.lastname@example.org or Rabbi Kivi Attar at email@example.com
TAPESTRY CELEBRATES 13 YEARS OF ADULT JEWISH EDUCATION In 2004, UJF Director of Education, Ilana De Laney and board member Meryl Gordon partnered to create an evening of adult education workshops for Stamford's Jewish community. Thirteen years later Tapestry is a beloved institution. On Saturday evening, November 19th, attendees will again have the opportunity to choose from a wide variety of topics - from current affairs to text study - and the chance to schmooze over delicious desserts. Ilana and Meryl will be honored, and Ilana will teach a workshop on the key to living a meaningful life. Registration on-line at: www.ujf.org/Tapestry2016 or by mail with the Tapestry brochure.
DO A MITZVAH! CONSIDER SUPPORTING THE JFS KOSHER FOOD PANTRY by purchasing Mitzvah Baskets and/or Mitzvah Centerpieces instead of flowers for your next simcha at CAS. Distributions from the JFS Kosher Food Pantry have increased by more than 1000 since the recession. With this tremendous upsurge in use, JFS is constantly challenged to keep the food pantry full. Your generosity enables JFS to help those in our community in their greatest moments of need.
JFS BLENDED FAMILIES WORKSHOPS -Thursdays, July 7th and August 4th, 7:00-8:00 pm at JFS, 733 Summer Street, Stamford. A series of three evening workshops, co-sponsored by BCDS and co-facilitated by Eve Moskowitz, Rebekah Kanefsky and Bob Abrams, Jewish Educator and patriarch of a successfully blended family. The workshops will focus on "blended families", making co-parenting, step-parenting and parenting alone work for families. Free to the community. Light refreshments served. RSVP required at 203-921-4161 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
JFS KOSHER FOOD PANTRY WINTER COAT DRIVE Jewish Family Service is collecting new or gently used clean coats for our Kosher Food Pantry Clients. Drop off your donations during the Summer months (June, July and August) at the JFS Stamford office. For additional information, please contact Rebekah Kanefsky at 203-921-4161 or email@example.com.
JFS LIFE TRANSITIONS -Wednesdays at 3:00 pm Support group for the unemployed at the Stamford JFS office, 733 Summer Street, 6th Floor. The group will provide a forum to discuss and explore the concerns and issues related to job loss and to find alternative solutions for career satisfaction. The group is a collaborative effort between JFS Counseling and Employment & Training Departments. To register or for more information, please contact Nadja Streiter at 203-921-4161 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org
JFS NEW BEGINNINGS , Mondays, 7:00-8:00 pm Support group for separated or divorced at Westport JFS office, 431 Post Road East, Suite 11. To register, contact Nadja Streiter at 203-921-4161 or email at email@example.com
LET'S TALK - Thursdays, 11 :00 am Free at the Stamford JCC, 1035 Newfield Avenue. Seniors talk about common interests and concerns, facilitated by a Jewish Family Service counselor. Contact Connie Cirillo Freeman at 203-487-0983 or firstname.lastname@example.org
JFS BRAIN FITNESS PILOT PROGRAM Working with clients experiencing early stage dementia or Alzheimer's in the client's home. Contact Matt Greenberg at 203-921-4161 or email@example.com
SNAP ENROLLMENT WORKSHOPS For adults and seniors, JFS will be providing information and eligibility assistance for the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP-formerly food stamps). SNAP Enrollment Workshops will be presented monthly at our Stamford office (733 Summer Street,6th Floor) on the second Wednesday of every month at 2:30 pm and at our Westport office (431 Post Road East) on the second Tuesday of every month at 11:00 am. For additional information or to register, please contact Rebekah Kanefsky, JFS Case Manager at 203-921-4161or email firstname.lastname@example.org.